When you're dating someone you met online one thing you two have in common is that you are both partakin in online dating. It can often be funny to share stories about crazy dates, share stories about wierd messeges you've received from other daters, and share stories about strange profiles you come across.
Women tend to be the recipient of the wierdest messeges. I've had girls I've dated from online websites share messages with me and we both got a laugh out of them. They ran the gammit from guys bragging about their houses and cars to guys with fetishes wanting to live their armpits, worship their calves and a variety of other strange things.
Sharing these stories as well as stories about bad dates through the online dating website you met on can be fun ways of breaking the ice, sharing a laugh, and bonding. Where this crosses the line however is when you two start to log into your accounts in front of each other and show each other other daters, messages from other daters, messages you've sent and received, etc.
I'll share a quick personal story about why this is a bad idea. I began dating someone I met online. We had reached the point where neither of us was dating anyone else, however neither of us had taken down our online dating profiles. Her because she claimed she lost the password to her account and hadn't gotten around to retrieving it and deleting it and myself just out of laziness. I hadn't logged on in a while and had totally forgotten I even had it.
She apparently had noticed my account was still up and asked me why. I told her I just hadn't thought to take it down as I hadn't logged onto it and it hadn't been on my mind. She kind of started questioning me so she suggested I login to show her I hadn't been on and hadn't been messeging other datings in addition to making it seem fun like let me see who'd contacted you or who'd looked at you.
I was kind of nervous about this. Though I hadn't been on the site in a while and she could clearly see I hadn't been on as well as the fact I hadn't messeged anyone, I knew nothing good could come of this scenario.
I logged on and every person I had messaged she had something to say about their looks or something they said in their profile. She commented on the number of other daters I had messeged, on the looks of other daters I had messeged. She staretd inquiring about which of these women had I gone on dates with, which of these women had I slept with, etc.
It can be fun to share little antedotes of dates you've had, weird or strange messeges you've had, etc. Nothing good however can come of allowing someone else to read private corresponence you've sent and received with other people before you even met this person. Nothing positive can come out of that all it can do is stir up jealousy and resentment.
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