Dating Someone Who's Fresh Out Of A Relationship - Question From One Of Our Readers/Posters

So I've met up with a man off here a few times a week since February but he's still 'healing' shall we say from his last relationship, which is fine as we both agreed to take it slow, I'd not long lost my father so I was left heartbroken myself. Anyway, we're now in August (as you well know) and I've grown to have very strong feelings for him, he makes me dinner, cuddles and watches movies with, we go out to places, we've also 'done the deed' but I can't help feel that everytime I mention making things more official he blows me off with 'I'm scared darling', I genuinely don't know whether it's me, whether it's him, or whether it's just not meant to be.

What do you think?



Looks like you both have different definitions of what "taking it slow" means. Apparently he wasn't taking it so slow that you guys couldn't "do the deed" as you so eloquently put it :-) lol. 

It's possible he is still "wounded" from his last relationship and not wanting to jump into something right away. Many people are like that and in all honestly it's probably healthy not to jump into another relatinoship right off the bat. That said you have to decide how long you can be kept on the backburner for.

Another possibility is that the guy for the time being maybe for quite a while down the road wants to not be involved in something too serious. It's strange how online relationships develope. Some start with a first date, maybe a second date a week later and kind of slowly develope into a relationship while others move at light speed. You have a great first date, make plans to hang out the next day or following weekend and by the third hangout though maybe nothing is officially said yet you both are pretty much a couple. It's strange how these things workout.

You have not said anything about you and or/him dating other people or him having a girlfriend or anything like that but keep that possibility in the back of your mind that maybe he wants to play the field and isn't ready to enter into a relationship.

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