Ryan S, from Austin, Texas recently wrote us and wanted to share a recent dating experience along with a tip for all you online daters.
May seem like an odd thing to say, "Don't Try To Impress Your Date", but don't we all want to impress a person on a date?
Well yes of course you want to put your best foot forward and show your best side on a first date. What were talking about here is don't try to talk about money, how successful you are in your job, how you get into the hottest clubs without waiting in line because your so cool.
I think it's normally guys who get the bad rap and saying and doing stupid things to impress women and from what my female friends tell me it's all incredibly transparent and actually a bit pathetic. Ladies can fall into this trap too.
I was recently on a date with a young lady I met on OkCupid. After a few minutes of nervous conversation we had both polished off a mixed drink. We relaxed a bit and the conversation flowed easily.
Somehow we wound up on the topics of vacation or travel and she was telling me about a trip to South Beach, Miami she had recently taken. She began telling me how everywhere she went guys picked up dinner tabs, drink tabs, and bought bottles for her and her friends. I know she was trying to impress me with this story as well as show me how "desirable" she was to other men as well. I was sad how transparent this whole story was and actually was a bit of a turnoff that she was trying to hard to impress me.
This got me thinking though, all those times I've told similar stories I'm sure it was equally transparent that I was trying to impress the lady I was with and made me feel a bit pathetic myself.
Moral of the story here is just to yourself. Talk about yourself, give the other person a glimpse of yourself, who you are, what you enjoy doing, what type of person you are. Don't try to impress the other person as it's stressful trying to impress someone or be someone your not. If you start doing that off the bat you will have to continue to do that to keep this person interested and who wants to hang out with someone they are constantly having to put up a front around or constantly trying to impress.
Ryan S.
Austin, TX
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