If you're new to online dating you may find yourself wondering what type of profile pictures you should use for your dating profile. We often see many mistakes made such as having all group pictures, all solo pictures, or even pictures that don't reflect you in a positive light.
That said there's some common myths about online dating pictures were going to dispell for you today.
1. You Should Always Smile
Alot of people think you should look into the camera and smile. In social situations you should make eye contact, it's not always best to do with the camera. Also, for both men and women it can also be nice to sometimes just have a casual look and a casual stance vs cheesing for the camera. For men I think its more important to smile than women. Women can be worried about meeting a strange man, it's a vulnerable situation to be in and smiling can be a way of putting someone at ease, showingthem your friendly, etc.
2. Guys Should Keep Shirts On
Online dating is about playing to your strengths, if you got a nice body show it off right. Many women say right out in their profile don't bother messaging me if you have a shirtless pic on your profile. It's ironic that many of these same women saying this have bikini shots or all 45 degree angles looking down on their cleavage shots but god forbid a guy show off his abs.
First things first make sure yo have a body worth showing off. You may turn some women off to your profile or some may think your superficial but you'll also probably get a lot of messages.
3. Don't Do The Myspace Shot
Not sure why it's referred to as the Myspace shot, your guess is as good as mine, probably because myspace was the first popular social network where peopel posted pictures and many women's pictures were the 45 degree angle down the shirt pic at cleavage.
Not sure why this angle is so popular. I used to think it was because you got a shot of the girls cleavage, then I thought it was because it made women look less heavy. I now think it's actually a pretty good angle, generally better than the straight on picture so though it's cliche and I'll comment on all 45 degree angle pics on a profile, I still think it's one of the best angles for a pic.
4. Make Sure Your Face Is Showing
Obviously you don't want to intentionally cut off your face. People want to see what you look like and it seems like your unsure of yourself or hiding if your not willing to show your face. Majority of your photos should show your face but if you want to post a pic of you in a motorcycle helmet, scuba gear, whatever your hobby is go right ahead and post one.
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i agreed to meet a guy i met online, now im having second thoughts?
im 22 and i tried an online dating site. i met a guy and enjoyed talking
with him. aftera couple days he suggested we meet sometime. i said
sure.
now im having second thoughts. i made this account not even a week ago and didnt expect to meet anyone or get asked out. im 22 and ive never been asked out or kissed or anything and i jsut dont know if this is how i would want to go about my first date. im mad at myself for agreeing because i dont want to bail on him, i just dont know the best way about turning him down, whether i say something to him or just stop responding. im seriously debating deleting my account soon
i also dont think im that physically attracted to him as shallow at tht is
Okay, I'm a big fan of online dating and have a lot of experience on there so let me offer you some advice. First off if you don't want to meet someone why did you go on an online dating website? Your essentially leading everyone on who you talk to if you don't plan on meeting.
I think you woultimee to meet someone and did want to meet someone but your inexperience dating is making you self concious and worried.
Your 22, it's time you get out and start dating, start meeting people. I know it can be nervous but just go and have fun. Go somewhere public for safety. Maybe do something where there's an activity so it's not just nervous chat or staring at each other. Maybe corny but I'm thinking miniature golf or go play pool or something where there's an activity to distract as opposed to just sitting at a bar with nothing to do but stare at each other and talk. That was ust the activity will create conversation as well.
As for you not being physically attracted to the guy i still think you should go out with him. Maybe a good way to get rid of some of that first date nervousness. If it was a guy you were super attracted to you would be even more nervous with this guy go out, if nothing else maybe you meet a friend. Best of luck to you.
now im having second thoughts. i made this account not even a week ago and didnt expect to meet anyone or get asked out. im 22 and ive never been asked out or kissed or anything and i jsut dont know if this is how i would want to go about my first date. im mad at myself for agreeing because i dont want to bail on him, i just dont know the best way about turning him down, whether i say something to him or just stop responding. im seriously debating deleting my account soon
i also dont think im that physically attracted to him as shallow at tht is
Okay, I'm a big fan of online dating and have a lot of experience on there so let me offer you some advice. First off if you don't want to meet someone why did you go on an online dating website? Your essentially leading everyone on who you talk to if you don't plan on meeting.
I think you woultimee to meet someone and did want to meet someone but your inexperience dating is making you self concious and worried.
Your 22, it's time you get out and start dating, start meeting people. I know it can be nervous but just go and have fun. Go somewhere public for safety. Maybe do something where there's an activity so it's not just nervous chat or staring at each other. Maybe corny but I'm thinking miniature golf or go play pool or something where there's an activity to distract as opposed to just sitting at a bar with nothing to do but stare at each other and talk. That was ust the activity will create conversation as well.
As for you not being physically attracted to the guy i still think you should go out with him. Maybe a good way to get rid of some of that first date nervousness. If it was a guy you were super attracted to you would be even more nervous with this guy go out, if nothing else maybe you meet a friend. Best of luck to you.
Mobile online free dating sites?
I am 19 and I go to college and I can't find a girlfriend. I started
winter term and everyone else already developed friendships. I would
like to know what are some online dating sites with mobile capabilities
since my regular computer is in the shop.
Most all online dating sites have a mobile capability now days. There are some dating websites which are strictly mobile such as skout. The cool thing about skout is it's supposed to be location based so say your at a bar or baseball game you can see people within 0.2 miles of you a mile of you etc. Potentially you can even message people at the same event or nearby you.
The site doesn't really work out quite like that in terms of hey were both at this concert lets meetup by the beer tent but taht's the idea behind it.
In terms of free dating sites I think the two best out there are plentyoffish and okcupid. Both have wonderfully laid out online apps as well as websites. They are free and also have a large userbase who is active on the site.
Most all online dating sites have a mobile capability now days. There are some dating websites which are strictly mobile such as skout. The cool thing about skout is it's supposed to be location based so say your at a bar or baseball game you can see people within 0.2 miles of you a mile of you etc. Potentially you can even message people at the same event or nearby you.
The site doesn't really work out quite like that in terms of hey were both at this concert lets meetup by the beer tent but taht's the idea behind it.
In terms of free dating sites I think the two best out there are plentyoffish and okcupid. Both have wonderfully laid out online apps as well as websites. They are free and also have a large userbase who is active on the site.
What is wrong with me? I can't even find someone with online dating.?
I'm 19 years old and I'm a pretty shy person. So its kinda difficult for
me to meet girls in person. Anyway, I've been trying online dating and
all the girls that I find attractive won't even message me back. I'm
starting to get really discouraged. Am I just really ugly or is there
something wrong with my profile, or anything that might be of help?
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=51818763
Okay so I can relate to you. I'm not great with the bar scene and just approaching women, I'm not comfortable with it, I don't have a good "game" on the fly but online when you can slowly get to know someone and stuff I actually make out pretty well. You sound similar.
Couple tips for you about your profile. Your a good looking guy, have a nice smile, etc. That one pic of you super closeup isn't flattering though, your not smiling you look kinda zoned out. Remove that one and get another one. One other thing, all your pics are like self taken bathroom mirror pics. Can you get an action pic of you on vacattion, playing a sport, hanging out with friends, something that shows you doing something you enjoy and are passionate about.
As for your bio I think it's pretty good.
As for who your going after the hottest girls on pof? If that's the case keep in mind they probably get like a 100 messages a day. I talk to femalre friends of mine who are on there and even a girl you might think is average is getting 30-40 messages a day it gets to the point unless you really say something that sticks out they wont even look at your message.
I used to send silly messages like hey you want to get drunk and go to a cupcake shop and lick the frosting off all the cupcakes? Oddly enough wierd stuff like that gets responses. One other tip I have onthe meet me feature go through really fast and click yes to everyone you see even if your not attracted to everyone. Everyone you click yes to will get a message saying you expressed interest. Go on today and do that and I gurantee you'll see many more people viewing your profile and probably get a few messages as well. Best of luck to you.
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=51818763
Okay so I can relate to you. I'm not great with the bar scene and just approaching women, I'm not comfortable with it, I don't have a good "game" on the fly but online when you can slowly get to know someone and stuff I actually make out pretty well. You sound similar.
Couple tips for you about your profile. Your a good looking guy, have a nice smile, etc. That one pic of you super closeup isn't flattering though, your not smiling you look kinda zoned out. Remove that one and get another one. One other thing, all your pics are like self taken bathroom mirror pics. Can you get an action pic of you on vacattion, playing a sport, hanging out with friends, something that shows you doing something you enjoy and are passionate about.
As for your bio I think it's pretty good.
As for who your going after the hottest girls on pof? If that's the case keep in mind they probably get like a 100 messages a day. I talk to femalre friends of mine who are on there and even a girl you might think is average is getting 30-40 messages a day it gets to the point unless you really say something that sticks out they wont even look at your message.
I used to send silly messages like hey you want to get drunk and go to a cupcake shop and lick the frosting off all the cupcakes? Oddly enough wierd stuff like that gets responses. One other tip I have onthe meet me feature go through really fast and click yes to everyone you see even if your not attracted to everyone. Everyone you click yes to will get a message saying you expressed interest. Go on today and do that and I gurantee you'll see many more people viewing your profile and probably get a few messages as well. Best of luck to you.
What is the best way to talk to someone you have never met online without it seeming weird?
I am a 17 year old teenage guy
and for some reason I can NEVER find a girl in my area that I am
attracted to. It is either always some girl I have seen/met online or
they live far away. I am not trying to sound self centered or arrogant
but girls and guys even tell me I am very attractive all of the time and
complement me, so I do get interest from a lot of people, but I just
never feel anything back.
Anyways lately there is this girl who caught my eye online on some youtube video who is basically my exact definition of what my perfect girl would be both look and personality wise. I know the video may not be a perfect representation but still.... Anyways, I found out just through links on her video what her twitter, facebook, etc was and she still seemed to act the same way she was in the video, she was a girl who was actually attractive without gallons of makeup on, never once saw or read anything where she swore, etc just things like that are important to me because most teenagers morals have gone downhill.
I know it is a huge long shot since I have never met her but I was curious if anyone had any ideas of how I could try to get in contact her and just see if anything happens. I am kind of tired of having no interest in anyone in my area. I want to be in a relationship, but I don't want to be in one just to be in one. I am a pretty religious person and try to live my life the best way I can, so I view relationships as something serious even if it is just dating. I don't really believe in just dating several people just to have fun, I would like a real relationship. I personally always thought online dating and meeting someone over the internet was pointless, now it seems like my only option besides just traveling somewhere else....
Anyways lately there is this girl who caught my eye online on some youtube video who is basically my exact definition of what my perfect girl would be both look and personality wise. I know the video may not be a perfect representation but still.... Anyways, I found out just through links on her video what her twitter, facebook, etc was and she still seemed to act the same way she was in the video, she was a girl who was actually attractive without gallons of makeup on, never once saw or read anything where she swore, etc just things like that are important to me because most teenagers morals have gone downhill.
I know it is a huge long shot since I have never met her but I was curious if anyone had any ideas of how I could try to get in contact her and just see if anything happens. I am kind of tired of having no interest in anyone in my area. I want to be in a relationship, but I don't want to be in one just to be in one. I am a pretty religious person and try to live my life the best way I can, so I view relationships as something serious even if it is just dating. I don't really believe in just dating several people just to have fun, I would like a real relationship. I personally always thought online dating and meeting someone over the internet was pointless, now it seems like my only option besides just traveling somewhere else....
Okay, well first off this isn't the typical type of question we answer here at allthingsonlinedating.com however I found your question interesting and wanted to give you an answer and some advice.
Not to burst your bubble but at 17 the likeliehood of you having a relationship especially a long distance relationship with this woman is probably small. You just aren't old enough, don't have the money most likely, dont have paretns approval to be going cross country to meet some stranger you met online so I would question how far this relationship could go even if she does like you or respond to your advances. I don't see it developing beyond a penpal relationship probably for at least a few years.
I don't mean to get too psychological on you but I think part of the reason you like so much is you don't know her so you can ascribe any attributes you want to her. Also maybe how she is online is an online persona and not her real personality. I think if she were another girl you went to school with or met at the mall you woudln't think she was anything special.
All that said I suppose it can't hurt to drop her a message through youtube and just say hey I like your videos you seem cool and I thought you were cute. Leave it at that and if she wants to strike up a convo cool
Best of luck to you.
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